Modeling = Change

When I first went to therapy my "presenting problem,"  or the main issue that brought me to therapy, was work related. By talking about the "crisis," I saw that it was a problem (got some "validation") and I learned about tools to use when the crisis came up again. My therapist even practiced using the tools with me so I would know what they looked and sounded like.

And indeed, when I was in that crisis moment at work, I literally thought to myself, "What did my therapist say I could do?" and then I did it. The crisis itself didn't change but my response to it changed. Without making matters worse than they already were, I got through it.

Having a place to be validated, to learn with logic and tools, and to see my therapist model this type of behavior was so beneficial in a way I had never experienced before. This is only one of many aspects that you might get from therapy.

I learned later that this modeling plays on the brain via mirror neurons. This is a 10-minute talk about how mirror neurons help reinforce the sense of connection to one another and our ability to change.

Considered the basis for empathy, it's also a great way to tap into changing your behavior.

Gracias y namaste,